The caped crusader was always circling, there were always jobs to do and always many people relying on them for help, protection, support and guidance. The on duty hours were long, 24 hours a day, but that’s what we expect from a superhero right? We always expect them to be strong, ever present and awake, to know what to do. You never see them asleep in the corner or refusing to help a person in need.
This superhero who is always circling, this superhero who always has jobs to do, this superhero who always has at least one person if not more relying on them for protection support and guidance, this superhero who is in one way or another on duty 24 hours a day, this superhero is you.
In reality TV superheroes are actors (apologies if that revelation bursts your ‘Superman is real’ bubble! ) They do their bit, look slick and not a hair out of place but in reality they do take off the costume, they do sleep, they do eat, they rest, they laugh, they cry, they doubt themselves and others, yet on TV and social media they are seen as the superhero they portray.
Is this true in our lives? Do you feel that you have to keep up the TV superhero image? Do others on social media ever make you feel less than? Have you sometimes felt like the weight of the cape that you wear is pulling you down while others fly effortlessly?
In an attempt to stop me overdoing things and overthinking a wise friend would keep telling me “You’re not Superwoman”. In other words don’t try and push yourself with unrealistic unhealthy expectations. In the context of this article I’m saying that you aren’t the unrealistic TV superhero but that the reality of a true superhero is one who gives and loves unconditionally and is human. For example to that lady at toddler group you were a superhero because you were the only person that smiled at her that day. Don’t underestimate the reach you have and the good that you do.
I recently played twister with my daughter, quickly realising how unfit I am, how tight my hamstrings are and how remaining in one position for too long with all the blood rushing to my head makes me quickly need to stand up! Yet that spinner kept spinning.. “Right hand red! Left hand blue! Left foot red! Right foot in the air!” my daughter giggled hysterically as I did an impression of a huffing puffing spider that looked like it had been stamped on.
So many times in my day or week I feel like I’m playing Twister, one hand here the other there, feet rushing me here there and everywhere with more to do. Often when a busy person is asked “Can you do this as well?” they reply “Yeah with my left leg!” We twist and stretch, huff and puff, try to hit all the right colours with the right limbs and all the while that darn spinner just keeps on spinning! The moves are endless and relentless with more and more to come.
Did you know that you are a superhero? You really are. Do you have ANY idea at all how you look through your child’s eyes? Or have you become so used to how you look through your own eyes, and how you IMAGINE that you look through EVERYONE else’s eyes that you’ve never taken a moment to see, to realise, to let the truth impact you, the truth that through the eyes of your child you (insert your name here) are a superhero?
Say this out loud “I (your name) am a superhero through the eyes of my child. When I think I have failed I am still a superhero, those times I cry when I think no one is watching I am still a superhero, when I feel inadequate I am still a superhero, when I feel depressed I am a superhero. And if I believe for one second that I am unworthy and not important and not valued because I imagine that someone else thinks that, or if I feel I am unloved because someone once told me that, if I can believe so wholeheartedly that I am what others think I am, then by that same logic I can believe that I am a superhero because my child thinks that I am”. Your child not only thinks you are a superhero, your child KNOWS that you are. Your child has not just seen the times you have fallen but the times you got back up, they have not only seen the times you shouted but the times you hugged, they haven’t just seen the times you cried but the times you cried with laughter. Stop judging yourself by negative thoughts, please start judging yourself by the positive thoughts that your child has for you. And yes there are times your child shouts at you and says you have ruined their day, but you are the one they call when they’re sick, when they’re scared, the one they will call in the middle of the night.
You are a superhero playing Twister. It isn’t easy. It isn’t for the fainthearted. Sometimes you wonder how you made it through the day. Other times things feel a lot easier and your cape floats effortlessly behind you.
Either way you are not alone. You actually are adored. You are needed. You are one of a kind, a unique individual who has never before existed and never will again. Make it count. Don’t waste another day believing the lies. Instead realise the truth. And dear caped crusader reading this remember not to match the TV superhero, stop, rest, recharge, put your feet up once in a while. When was the last time you laid on the ground and watched the clouds float past? Do you have a garden or access to the outdoors and in this weather a coat? Try it, if you have time to look at Facebook and read this article you have time to do that!
Onwards and upwards remember you are surrounded by other superheroes playing Twister, regardless of your backgrounds we are all more alike than you think. And as always keep a watchful eye out for that bedraggled superhero having a bad time of it, stuck in a Twister position unable to get up, they need your help just as one day you may need theirs.
Give that child that adores you an extra big hug today and always seek help if you need it.
~ “Let us not grow weary in well doing” ~